Comments on: Give in or give up — one will radically improve your relationship http://marriagevowworkbook.com/blog/2008/02/23/give-in-or-give-up-one-will-radically-improve-your-relationship/ Resources for writing wedding vows and creating successful and enduring relationships Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:13:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Adam http://marriagevowworkbook.com/blog/2008/02/23/give-in-or-give-up-one-will-radically-improve-your-relationship/#comment-80514 Adam Fri, 20 Jun 2008 16:55:01 +0000 http://marriagevowworkbook.com/blog/2008/02/23/give-in-or-give-up-one-will-radically-improve-your-relationship/#comment-80514 I remember my old NLP trainer giving me an absolute pearl along these lines and I'd like to share it with you: "Is it better to be 'right' or to be 'happy'?" 'Being right' is more often than not the ego attaching a sense of self to a piece of information or situation. It's just information or a situation until your drama driven ego decides it's 'personal' and could be construed as a personal attack. When we separate ourselves from our thoughts (two very different things) it becomes easy to recognise the futility of 'being right'. So - 'be happy' my friends. I remember my old NLP trainer giving me an absolute pearl along these lines and I’d like to share it with you:

“Is it better to be ‘right’ or to be ‘happy’?”

‘Being right’ is more often than not the ego attaching a sense of self to a piece of information or situation. It’s just information or a situation until your drama driven ego decides it’s ‘personal’ and could be construed as a personal attack.

When we separate ourselves from our thoughts (two very different things) it becomes easy to recognise the futility of ‘being right’.

So - ‘be happy’ my friends.

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